Working together as co-parents with school and holiday events will create everlasting memories for your child. It will show your child that you are able to put your differences aside for their wellbeing.
As if there isn’t enough to contend with during the holidays, we have all the school events with recitals and concerts and everything else. As a divorced parent and school director, here is a tip that can make this easier for you and your child.
Try to attend school events together; it’s best for your child to see mom and dad there, even though I know it can be hard. Put your ego aside and try to understand how your child feels. If this is not going to work, arrange with your co-parent that one of you is at each event, dividing the time and parties the best you can. Once everyone agrees, tell your child so they know who is coming when. Reassure them about what is going on and keep them in the loop. Be sure you let the school know that your child’s parents are divorced or separated, and ask if they can include both parents in emails and school correspondence.
If your co-parent shows no interest in these activities, attend as many events as possible on your own. Not an easy task, yet the rewards when your child looks up and sees you at their school are indescribable. Your child just wants you both to be there but even having consistent support from one parent or even extended family is paramount for them to feel important and loved!
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