Everyday Challenges

A huge challenge in formulating a parenting plan is often the thought of being away from your children for any extended period of time, for the celebration of a holiday, or to miss a vacation they might take with their other parent. Most parents say helplessly, “Nothing about any of this feels right. I didn’t […]

If it’s hazardous to make big decisions during the emotional roller coaster of divorce, what’s the answer? Aren’t some decisions forced on us at this very vulnerable time? Indeed, they are. Fortunately, there are experts whose calling is to help us make those decisions and get through the crisis intact. An attorney is often the […]

The world is a scary place, and as a parent with a young child it can be tempting to buy into the stranger danger training model. This is where children are taught skills to resist everyone else other than their parents and become aware of the fact that someone could want to take them. As […]

Every successful negotiation requires that from the outset you know yourself and as much as possible, know your negotiation partner. You can never be too prepared for a negotiation — and you can all too easily be unprepared.You should also try to learn as much as you can about the specific circumstances surrounding the negotiation. […]

Spring is almost upon us and it lends itself to good advice in coParenting skills – sharpen your goal directed theoretical arrows and plan to construct targets before the season begins. A positive project is a perfect family unification activity. And any faith or culture can adapt this idea – it’s all about diversity and family […]

As a writer and advocate for long distance coParents, David Goldschmidt was on the lookout for technology that connected him in a fun and meaningful way with his 11-year old son, Jonah. Goldschmidt, who resides in California, missed his son in Florida following a break-up. They both longed to continue their connection. Disappointed by not being […]

Religion and celebration of faith can be an area of deep divide or conflict if coParents forget to respect each other’s option to determine religious practice. A common concern about a child’s religious practice following divorce and separation arises when one coParent no longer values or shares a willingness to ensure religious education or attendance. […]

How often do you listen with your whole self when another person is speaking?
 Listening requires full engagement, which is hard work. It takes stillness, patience, and time. Some say that listening is a lost art, one that many people are starving for. Yet listening is not complicated.
To simply listen means to hold open a […]

How many mothers recall the thrill of birthing a daughter? A little female child may consciously or unconsciously recall your own maternal relationship and a wish to replicate or remediate your early experiences. The once delightful and often cooperative little girl enters puberty with a bang! Adolescence and the attendant hormonal changes recapitulate the “terrible […]

From the moment we hold our child in our arms for the first time, our lives are forever changed. As coParents, we must work together to share parenting time, accept our child’s passions in activities and go with the flow to grow as their biggest fan. We may be great captains of industry, opera singers […]

When it comes to coParenting, any assistance is truly appreciated. Don’t feel guilty —say yes! It’s a win-win situation, especially for grandparents, who live for loving their grandchildren. Divorce or separation requires everyone to adjust — including grandparents, extended family, and our closest friends. Some of your extended family may need guidance for adjusting to […]